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    Rendahl: In Limbo

    By Kristi Rendahl // December 31, 2013 in Featured, Headline, Kristi Rendahl


    `It's the little things, like when you reach for something to read and
    you realize your books aren't there,' my friend said as she tried to
    describe what it's like to live in limbo.

    I met the Armenian-Syrian family again while I was in Lebanon and a
    new family member was with them this time.

    She's an Armenian Syrian living in Beirut with her parents for the
    indefinite future.

    In Damascus, they had a home and a factory that they'd built over the
    past 30 years. The girls went to school and danced to Armenian and
    Arabic music. When I stayed with them several years ago, they had ice
    cream delivered for dinner because we were too tired from a day of fun
    to eat another big meal. Their lives were different then.

    I had visited Syria just a week before the presidential election, when
    Assad's portrait dominated the landscape. There were so many posters
    of his face plastered in every window and on every wall that it was
    hard for me to keep a straight face, but I knew that I should. Someone
    I met whispered a joke to me: `We have many candidates for president.
    They just all look alike.'

    I didn't know anyone in Damascus on my first day, so I went to see a
    movie in the evening. It was a U.S.-made movie with Arabic subtitles.
    They assigned seats in the theater and the side sections remained
    empty, while everyone was packed into the center rows, and me into the
    center of the center.

    During the movie I went to use the restroom or get a snack, I can't
    remember which, and when I returned I decided to just sit in a side
    section instead of walking in front of a whole row of people watching
    the movie. The usher waved his flashlight, trying to insist that I
    return to my assigned seat.

    Maybe it was hospitality on his part, maybe he didn't want me to be
    alone, maybe it's just the way things are done. But I resist most
    attempts to put me in some arbitrary place, theater seat or otherwise,
    no matter the good intentions. As a foreigner you sometimes can get
    away with little things, so I waved off his offer saying that the side
    section would be just fine.

    This past summer I was in the region for work to visit our partner
    organization in Tripoli, Lebanon. A torture rehabilitation center,
    many of the people they serve are highly traumatized Syrians who have
    crossed the border to find safety. These days one can't talk about
    Syria without talking about Lebanon and Jordan and Turkey.

    I'd watched my dad swallow his anxiety whole, a visible lump in his
    throat, when I said I was going. In his mind, I was returning to a
    land of nearly endless violence. In my mind, I was returning to a land
    of nearly endless eating.

    Of course, he had a point. There had been a car bomb a few days before
    I arrived and there was an assassination a few days into my stay.

    `What happens in Beirut, stays in Beirut,' the locals said of
    incidents that happen in other parts of the country. Until it doesn't,
    I thought to myself.

    It was Ramadan then, so I spent several nights eating my way through
    grand Iftaar meals, wondering if they would ever stop bringing
    courses. Children were out until midnight playing games and lighting
    small firecrackers. Couples walked along the seaside and drank freshly
    squeezed juice and ate cotton candy. Others relaxed and smoked
    nargile. A taxi driver gave me and a colleague a free ride.

    There were explosions during the day and at night. To the untrained
    ear, celebratory fireworks and gunfire sound much the same. But
    natives of the region know the difference.

    I met the Armenian-Syrian family again while I was in Lebanon and a
    new family member was with them this time: a little boy with
    outrageously curly dark hair, blissfully unaware of why he and his
    extended family live in a different country now.

    My friend Kim does an exercise with students and adults in the U.S. to
    teach them about the challenges of refugees. She tells them to imagine
    they're forced to flee their homes overnight and can only take three
    things with them. `What would those three things be?' she asks.

    This is a painful exercise for someone as nostalgic as me, someone who
    loves her conveniences, someone who believes that family, friends, and
    health are the most important things, but for whom both sentimentality
    and materialism still reign in weak moments.

    A new life - which is not actually a new life at all but a suspended
    one - demands important paperwork if you can find it, cash if the bank
    will let you take it out, and clothes if you can carry them. You'll go
    back for more, maybe, but you'll never be able to pack up your life as
    it once was. And you wouldn't do so even if you could, because every
    day you'll wonder how or whether you will return, desperate to know
    how the story ends, desperate for some ink to write your own ending.

    http://www.armenianweekly.com/2013/12/31/rendahl-in-limbo/

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